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Doctrines & Morals
 
 
Homilies/Reflections

WHY DO WE FAIL TO LOVE? (Acts 10:25-26,34-35,44-48; 1 John 4:7-10; John 15:9-17).
By REV. FR. PAUL ANIGBORO

Everytime I remembered the event of April 23rd, 2018 where 2 priests and 17 parishioners were killed while attending mass, I just ask myself why did these killers fail to love? I ask because if only they realised what it really and truly means to love God and their neighbour, they wouldn't have slaughtered in cold blood, harmless people. Why did they fail to love? Why do we fail to love? 
 
We can throw tantrums at these people but we need to ask ourselves too why we fail to love also? We fail to love when we relate with people based on what we stand to gain. We fail to love, when we only see people as an object to be used and dumped. We fail to love when we gossip and say all kinds of calumny against them. We fail to love when we judge people by tribe or colour and not by what the person has to offer. Why do we fail to love? 
 
Love must be real, genuine and true. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be. In today’s Gospel Jesus commands, us to practice this type of sacrificial and selfless *agápe* love as he practiced it. The message of love runs across the 3 readings and it is a call for us to re-examine ourselves and ask if we truly love God and our neighbour? 
 
St. Peter in the first reading teaches us in the christianization of Cornelius and his household that God shows no partiality in His love and that there are no boundaries to abiding in love. God loves everyone, both the Jews and the Gentiles, and He wants everyone to be saved through His son, Jesus. In the 2nd reading, St. John reminds us that Since God has loved us first, we can and should love God in return, love ourselves and love one another. Finally, the gospel summarises it all in *John 15:12, "this is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you."* This love must be expressed in our willingness to lay down our lives as Jesus did, for people who don’t deserve it. 
 
Love is one word today that has been so bastardized. On every lips of every young man and woman out there is the phrase, 'I love you.' Most times, the kind of love they mean is the Eros where they see the other person as an object for sexual pleasures alone. This is not the kind of love we are talking about. The love Jesus talks about today is agape love. The true and real love that is sacrificial.
 
There are 7 attributes every true love must have and they are: *trust, mutuality, faithfulness, equality, forgiveness, joy and sacrifice.* Jesus showed all these qualities in his love for us. We too must replicate it to others. When we have them, we won't judge based on tribe or colour. When we have them, we won't see the other person as an object for sex alone and we won't be pragmatic in our relationship with our neighbour. 
 
Let us cultivate an abiding and loving friendship with Jesus. Let us then translate this loving relationship with Jesus to our neighbour also. Let us forgive easily and let go of every hurt. Let us be kind to all we meet and loving. Remember, on judgement day the question will be how much did you love? It won't be fair to hear the question, *WHY DID YOU FAIL TO LOVE?*
 
Lord, help us to have a true love for you and our neighbour always. Amen. 
 
Good morning and do have a restful Sunday. God loves you.
 
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